Run vs. Stand Your Ground

I knew I had touched a nerve 

when she followed the impulse to run. 

I just did a bunch of mini Oracle readings for 2017 for my newsletter subscribers. The readings are a mini-burst of illumination to highlight the challenges and blessings of your year. The overarching theme is about using your power -- an essential part of living that I freakin' love talking about.

Hers wasn't going to be a terrible year, by any stretch of what most of us go through. In addition to blessings, there was a specific challenge in how she was relating to the people in her life to watch for, keep in check, and grow through. It was about using her power differently in relationships, without throwing her weight around or being a bully.

As soon as she received the reading, she wrote to me saying she was sad and upset. I wrote back with compassion and suggestions. Then she unsubscribed from my newsletter. 

I understood and silently sent her blessings. She needed time to digest what the reading illuminated. 


When you're being called to use your power differently, your impulses are to run or stand your ground.

Today is the first full moon of the year in Cancer. Another thing I love talking about. It heralds a turbulent emotional time, and you might feel as if your feelings are all over the map. Like all full moons, this one illuminates and floods light into the dark places.

This Cancer full Moon shows a crisis and opportunity ... just like her reading ... to let your guard down, let go of what's no longer serving your highest good and choose change rather than run from it.

Bring it all into the Light

I’ve been hearing a lot recently about individuals having trouble dealing with their shadow. Maybe it’s the uptick in consciousness that’s taking place right now on the planet or the U.S. Presidential election putting our collective shadow on the stage in the form of Donald Trump. 

What is your Shadow? 

This word, made popular by Swiss psychologist Carl G. Jung, describes an aspect of human personality that consists of feelings like rage, jealousy, aggression, resentment, hatred. You expressed these feelings as a child and teenager, but likely learned from the adults around you that it wasn’t OK to express them. As a result, you learned to suppress these feelings and to deny that they even exist. This doesn't work, because you still feel them ... and, when you do, you judge yourself harshly for feeling them. 

Here’s the story about your shadow.

The feelings are normal. They exist alongside feelings that are considered socially acceptable, such as joy, excitement, delight. You have these shadow feelings. We all do. To only allow the feelings you like to exist is to live only some of the time.

You aren’t here to live half of the time.

That’s not why you are here. You are here to be whole and shine brightly, which means allowing all of your feelings.

It’s time to bring your shadow feelings into the light. 

You don’t have to love them, but hold the intention of making room for them to exist alongside all of the other feelings. Allow rather than suppress. Acknowledge rather than deny. 

Years ago, as new psychotherapist fresh from grad school ...

... I used the tool that I was taught there which was talk therapy. When I landed my first job as an in-school therapist at the local alternative high school, I used talk therapy to connect with the teenagers there. It helped to a point. 

Then when I was hired at my next job as the trauma therapist at the county community mental health center, I again used what I learned, applying talk therapy to adult men and women who experience early childhood sexual abuse.

I used this tool all day long. It didn't take long, however, to notice that, while talking about what happened helped, healing hit a wall. It was frustrating to witness this happen over and over and feel helpless to continue helping these amazing men and women heal.

That's when I began to explore ways of healing outside of talk therapy.

What I found was an entire world of alternative healing tools. I studied EMDR, sensory body movement, yoga therapy, breath work, Akashic Records, Shamanic journeying, flower essences. 

One of the things I found was Reiki. 

Pronounced ray-key, this tool uses energy -- the same energy that's found everywhere all around you. The Reiki practitioner uses this energy, either hands on or hands off, to clear, heal and balance the chakras (energy centers of the body) and the energy field.

When I began to use it with my clients, I noticed that they healed further and deeper -- to places without words that really made a long-lasting difference in their lives.

One of the things I love about Reiki is that everyone can do it. You don't need any experience, special gadgets or long training programs. A Reiki Master Teacher attunes the student to Reiki and that's it! In a few hours, you can learn how to do it on yourself and the other people you love. 

If you're new to Reiki, come in for a treatment by clicking here if you're in the New York/New Jersey area. Or find a practitioner in your area.

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