The Sensitive Soul's Guide to Getting through the Holidays

Each year around this time, I write about how to deal with the holidays when you are sensitive. I’m looking at you my dear empaths, introverts and HSPs. 

We pick up on so much more than the average human. We pick up people's energy, the intensity of smells, the vibe of homes we're in ... to name a few.

Thanks to the holidays, you may find yourself with people and in places that don’t always jive with the way you move through the world.

Here are few ideas to help you get through it:


  1. Protect your energy field. I feel nauseous when I forget to do this and happen to be around energy-sucking people. Don’t know how to protect it? Click here. 
  2. Say yes and say no to social gatherings. Cherry-pick ones that make you feel good about yourself. Decline the ones that don’t. If there are that don’t but you feel you have to go, see #3.
  3. Use one of the principles of ergonomics. Make the holidays adapt to you, rather than you trying to adapt to it. Does going to a 4-hour party gives you hives? Show up for an hour and then say goodbye. Don’t want to be in the mall buying gifts because you get a migraine? Shop local and shop small (see below for 2 ideas on shopping small with me). 
  4. Plan alone time. All-day in your PJs while reading books or hosting your own movie marathon is right up your alley, my dear. I’ll be doing that for a few days with Wes Anderson. 
  5. Go for a walk in nature at least once a week.
  6. Connect with your body and breathe deeply. Repeat often. 

Being grateful

When I read this

the first time I dove into You Can Heal Your Life, I was like, "Yeah right." Louise was writing about her simple morning gratitude practice. She said it had a great impact on her day.

I was skeptical. It seemed too easy.

Then I tried it on a morning walk. Usually my mind revolved around:

  • the to-do list
  • the fearful what ifs
  • the what I don’t haves

I made myself stop. I made myself focus on what I was grateful for.

Honestly, my mind went blank.

Then I focused on what I was doing, and I was grateful to be able to go on a morning walk.

Then I noticed that my legs were strong enough to walk, so I was grateful for my legs.

Then I said I was grateful it wasn’t raining and that it was sunny.

Then I checked in with my heart and my body.

I was shocked.

I felt good. My body felt good. 

This was years ago. I still make this part of my morning. I've expanded it in lots of ways that continue to feel good.

Try it. Tell me what you notice. 

Dancing with your Inner Critic

Some of you know this feeling.

It can show up as a small persistent voice, nagging at you from the sidelines, or a big booming thing, all up in your face with a hands-on-hips attitude. You’ve may have tried ignoring it, silencing it, stuffing it down. All kinds of ways. But the feeling comes back.

When you tell others in your life how you feel, they usually point out all the ways that you are indeed good enough. It’s nice to hear, but it doesn't make the feeling go away.

Deep down, you know that you’re meant for big things. You want to have a life you love. You want to go for and reach your dreams. This feeling, however, sometimes holds you back.

Here are 3 things to do when it shows up:

1. Get Perspective

Adopt the idea that this feeling is just a part of you ... not the whole story. You may notice other parts of you inside, too. And, no, you don’t have multiple personality disorder if you notice other parts. We are all made up of parts. Name this feeling your “I’m not good enough” part. This can help shrink it down to a more realistic size.

2. Acknowledge It

Say to yourself “Well hello my I’m-not-good-enough part. There you are ... showing up again. What's up for you today?” Acknowledging it can change your relationship with this part, from negative to neutral. This simple shift is powerful.

3. Be Curious

As crazy as it may sound, this part may have shown up to help you with something in the past. Take a step back and be curious about when and where. See what you notice. You may gain some insight about it that you never knew.

Try it and leave a comment to let me know how it works for you.