Bring it all into the Light

I’ve been hearing a lot recently about individuals having trouble dealing with their shadow. Maybe it’s the uptick in consciousness that’s taking place right now on the planet or the U.S. Presidential election putting our collective shadow on the stage in the form of Donald Trump. 

What is your Shadow? 

This word, made popular by Swiss psychologist Carl G. Jung, describes an aspect of human personality that consists of feelings like rage, jealousy, aggression, resentment, hatred. You expressed these feelings as a child and teenager, but likely learned from the adults around you that it wasn’t OK to express them. As a result, you learned to suppress these feelings and to deny that they even exist. This doesn't work, because you still feel them ... and, when you do, you judge yourself harshly for feeling them. 

Here’s the story about your shadow.

The feelings are normal. They exist alongside feelings that are considered socially acceptable, such as joy, excitement, delight. You have these shadow feelings. We all do. To only allow the feelings you like to exist is to live only some of the time.

You aren’t here to live half of the time.

That’s not why you are here. You are here to be whole and shine brightly, which means allowing all of your feelings.

It’s time to bring your shadow feelings into the light. 

You don’t have to love them, but hold the intention of making room for them to exist alongside all of the other feelings. Allow rather than suppress. Acknowledge rather than deny. 

Years ago, as new psychotherapist fresh from grad school ...

... I used the tool that I was taught there which was talk therapy. When I landed my first job as an in-school therapist at the local alternative high school, I used talk therapy to connect with the teenagers there. It helped to a point. 

Then when I was hired at my next job as the trauma therapist at the county community mental health center, I again used what I learned, applying talk therapy to adult men and women who experience early childhood sexual abuse.

I used this tool all day long. It didn't take long, however, to notice that, while talking about what happened helped, healing hit a wall. It was frustrating to witness this happen over and over and feel helpless to continue helping these amazing men and women heal.

That's when I began to explore ways of healing outside of talk therapy.

What I found was an entire world of alternative healing tools. I studied EMDR, sensory body movement, yoga therapy, breath work, Akashic Records, Shamanic journeying, flower essences. 

One of the things I found was Reiki. 

Pronounced ray-key, this tool uses energy -- the same energy that's found everywhere all around you. The Reiki practitioner uses this energy, either hands on or hands off, to clear, heal and balance the chakras (energy centers of the body) and the energy field.

When I began to use it with my clients, I noticed that they healed further and deeper -- to places without words that really made a long-lasting difference in their lives.

One of the things I love about Reiki is that everyone can do it. You don't need any experience, special gadgets or long training programs. A Reiki Master Teacher attunes the student to Reiki and that's it! In a few hours, you can learn how to do it on yourself and the other people you love. 

If you're new to Reiki, come in for a treatment by clicking here if you're in the New York/New Jersey area. Or find a practitioner in your area.

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I'm feeling it. I bet you are too.

We're going through incredible times here on Planet Earth right now.

I'm definitely feeling it, and I bet you feel it too. Here's what's happening in my corner of the Universe, 

I believe: 

You have chosen to be here now to express your gifts.

In forgiving yourself. It releases stuck energy that you need for other things -- such as adding your voice to the song of the world right now.

You can make room for all of yourself, especially the parts you don’t like and try to hide.


I’ve been digging: 

This podcast. As an introvert, it made me feel seen and heard. 

This flower essence. It’s new to my collection of flower essences that I use to create my Mojo Custom Flower Essence Blends and perfect for those of us who are feeling the upshift right now. Click here to learn about my blends. 

This poem.


I’ve been spending time: 

Watching birds migrating over the Atlantic Ocean when my dog, Ria and I go for walks. Walking outside is the best grounding tool I use.

Planning the gardens around my new home ... another grounding activity. I squealed with delight yesterday when I found Bee Balm at the local garden center. Bee Balm -- whose wisdom and support is energy cleansing -- will be the anchor in my backyard sanctuary. 

Expanding an e-course that I taught a few years ago called Inner Moves. It’ll be a 10-week intimate transformation of the relationship that you have with yourself and the parts I mentioned that you try to hide. Feeling a spark as you read this? Click here to add your name to the list where I’ll announce it first.  

Now here’s where the magic is — in our connection. So tell me -- how are you feeling during these times and what's helping you?